Where in the Bible does Paul likely refer to his own wife?
If so, was she martered, or did she divorce him?
Are these answers in the Bible and histories? According to historians of the Body of. Messiah, yes, Paul had a wife. Dig in: Celibacy was not normative in the Jewish community (and yes, Paul was Jewish), nor was it so among believers in Jesus until long after Rome became the center of the Christian world.
According to Clement of Alexandria, The Stromata, Book VII: "They say, accordingly, that the blessed Peter, on seeing his wife led to death, rejoiced on account of her call and conveyance home, and called very encouragingly and comfortingly, addressing her by name, “Remember thou the Lord.” Such was the marriage of the blessed and their perfect disposition towards those dearest to them." Clement, after the above-mentioned facts, gives a statement, on account of those who rejected marriage, of the apostles that had wives: "Or will they,” says he, “reject even the apostles?
For Peter and Philip begat children, and Philip also gave his daughters in marriage. And Paul does not hesitate, in one of his epistles, to greet his wife, whom he did not take about with him, that he might not be inconvenienced in his ministry.”
Then there is Eusebius, Church History III.31, regarding 1 Corinthians 7:8. The word used is “unmarried” ἄγαμος which is a Dative Plural Masculine. He explains that it is inferring that Paul was previously married. “I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” Restated it is this: “If your wife dies or is martyred, and or husbands die or are martyred, it is good to abide as I am, chaste and single, but if your passions are too strong, get married for it is better to marry than to burn”
This concept is not unusual among Eastern Orthodox traditions. This is why Paul says “husband of one wife” in the requirements for leadership, as in 1 Tim 3:2 "A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach" Let's not ignore Titus 1:6 “If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.”
Or, 1 Timothy 3:12. Let the Deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children, and their owne houses well. Or, 1 Cor 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. And, 1 Corinthians 9:5 Do we not have the right to take along a believing wife, as do the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?
Was Paul married?